I Have Never, And Will Never Have Sex” – 35-Year-Old Woman Who Is Neither Attracted To Men Or Women

A 35-year-old woman has told how she has never
felt sexually attracted to men or women.Julie
Sondra Decker from Tampa, Florida, revealed that
she started describing herself as ‘nonsexual’ at the
age of 15 and when she became aware of the term
‘asexual’, she changed it.
The outgoing blonde says that she’s had more offers
of s*x than she ‘wants to count’ over the years but,
‘without the feelings that usually go with that sort of
thing, it’s kind of gross.’
The writer, who lives alone in a two-bedroom
apartment, states that she is not interested in dating
or pursuing a domestic partner.
‘I have very close friendships but don’t want a
significant other. I don’t want to find another
asexual to be roommates with.‘As far as I can tell I’ll
be happy being single my whole life.’In a YouTube
video, Miss Decker says that as a young teenager
she kissed and cuddled both boys and girls.
But she concluded: ‘I never found anything that
floated my boat.’She says that her family were
convinced that she was a ‘closet lesbian’.
Before she went to college her mother even took her
to the doctors because she wasn’t expressing
‘normal’ interest in the opposite s*x.
Given the all-clear she carried on with her studies,
graduating from the University of Florida in 2000
with a degree in elementary education and
psychology.
She said despite there being more awareness about
asexuality today, it still remains largely
misunderstood.
She’s had male friends try and ‘fix’ her by kissing
her against her will and many insist that she will
‘wake up one day’.
Since opening up about being asexual on the
internet, via YouTube and her blog, Miss Decker
says that she’s received death threats and been told
by several commentators that she just needs a
‘good defiling.’
‘When people hear that you’re asexual, some take
that as a challenge,’ she told the Huffington Post.
‘We are perceived as not being fully human because
s*xual attraction and s*xual relationships are seen
as something alive, healthy people do.
‘They think that you really want s*x but just don’t
know it yet. For people who perform corrective r*pe,
they believe that they’re just waking us up and that
we’ll thank them for it later.’
Miss Decker says that asexuality presents itself in
many forms. Some people, while lacking s*xual
attraction to any gender, may engage in purely
romantic relationships.
However, she defines herself as ‘aromantic’,
meaning she does not have any romantic feelings
either.
Professor Bogaert, an associate professor at Brock
University in Ontario, Canada, suggests in his book
Understanding Asexuality, that around one per cent
of the world’s population – 70million people – are
‘asexual.
He believes that this demographic are ‘under-
studied’ and that they can feel excluded from our
‘very sexualised culture’.
Experts say a certain number of asexuals may have
always existed but are only now starting to ‘come
out’ as society becomes more liberal.
To her ‘haters’, Miss Decker concludes: ‘I’m not
damaged, lonely or in need of a conversion because
I’m not interested [in s*x].’
She hopes to raise awareness about asexuality
through her writing and public speaking.
‘[I want] people who feel similarly to know they’re
not alone.